Emptying the baggage

Singles it will take a special kind of man or woman to confront some of our wrong thinking patterns and that might be the best person for you.

The right person will challenge you to change. They just wont accept all your baggage and junk just like that . Just as Christ’s love encourages us to grow up and be like him…so will the love of a good man and woman who can see past the drama and wants to be with you but only if you can take ownership and allow for your waste places to be healed.

If not boo will walk. That’s wifey or husband materials exiting right left there while you shrug your shoulders and think that you ain’t changing for nobody.

They might suggest changes like how you handle your finances, how you talk to your dad, prayer life, your goals, personal hygiene…they might challenge some of your traditional or modern expectations of men and women’s role in a marriage….they might suggest you take a course to upgrade your qualifications instead of filling their ears daily about complaints about your job. They might irritate you or get on your last nerve but that might be because you are their assignment and not their enemy.

Sometimes bae comes to change your mindset and just not your name.

As long as they are not asking you to make changes to your core values and beliefs…give their advice and suggestions some thought. Even if it doesn’t end up down the aisle at least knowing them would have benefited you in some small way.

Don’t spend years discovering this to your own detriment.

The True Cost of a Diamond

You are the Diamond behind the Jewellers Counter.

They said you are on the shelf.

Yep. You are on the shelf . Gods shelf.

Does it take away the pain of the years of waiting? No.

You see the jeweller knows how much time he has spent cultivating that Diamond. When he first saw it – it was a blackened ugly stone buried under dirt and grime but he picked it up and cleaned it up and polished it until it shone. The jeweller has a talent for seeing the hidden beauty even when its hidden under layers of the ugliness of the pain, abuse, addiction, low self-image and the myriad of the different things we deal with before and even after we have given our life to Christ
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Sometimes a person comes up and looks longingly at the diamond and wants to buy it. The tells them the price and the Jeweller wants to know if they are ready to make the investment.

The prospective buyer thinks about it – is it worth it? Maybe yes. Am I ready to make the investment. Sometimes it’s a yes – this is perfect. My fiancée will love it and sometimes its no. It aint all that. No I’m not ready to make the investment in order to take the ring home.

Some people are like that. They aren’t ready to make the investment of doing what it takes to make a commitment. Your price is too high. You are asking for costly things like regular church attendance, emotional intelligence, evidence of growth and mentorship, accountability and no sex before marriage and its going to cost too much. You are too much hard work.

So the customer has moved on.
You are still on the ‘shelf’.
Till someone who correctly discerns your value walks in.

Glory. Halleluyah. It is done. No haggling . It takes discernment to know when you have got the best deal.